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Her Husband Killed One Son & Blinded The Other | Survivor Stories


OH, YEAH.
EVERYBODY THOUGHT SO. ♪♪ Ross:
WHY CAN’T I SEE? ♪♪ HOW’S IT GOING, GUYS?
IT IS ROSS. Woman:
GO, ROSS! WHOO-HOO! THE CAMERA ON MY 6
IS A BIT SMALLER. ♪♪ PEOPLE WHO DON’T HAVE A LITTLE
BIT OF SUFFERING IN THEIR LIFE ARE JUST NOT GOING TO EXPERIENCE
LIFE. IF I SAID THAT OUR DAD HATED US,
IT WOULD CONTRADICT EVERYTHING. OR IF I SAID THAT HE LOVED US,
IT WOULD CONTRADICT, BECAUSE, LIKE,
HOW CAN SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU, LIKE, SHOOT YOU IN THE HEAD? WELL, IT’S BECAUSE IT ULTIMATELY
WAS, LIKE, A MISTAKE. MOST OF MY MEMORIES OF MY DAD
WERE VERY HAPPY. NOBODY WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE
TO PREDICT. I MEAN, THERE’S NO — YOU KNOW, HAD HE BEEN VIOLENT
OR SOMETHING TO THE KIDS BEFORE, BUT THERE WAS NO PREDICTOR
OF THAT. MARK DIDN’T PHYSICALLY HIT ME,
PUSH ME. I THINK MORE OF WHAT HE DID
WAS INTIMIDATION, KIND OF. ♪♪ Mark:
YOU CAN JUST FORGET ABOUT IT. THERE’S NO WAY YOU ARE GOING TO
TAKE MY KIDS AWAY FROM ME. NOT A CHANCE! [ INDISTINCT SHOUTING ] IT WAS FROM THAT PERIOD OF TIME
THAT FOLLOWING WEEK THAT I THINK
MARK JUST TOTALLY UNRAVELED. HE CALLED MY FRIENDS.
HE CALLED MY FAMILY. HE CALLED SOME OF HIS FRIENDS. HE’S LIKE, “I’M TIRED.
I JUST WANT TO GO TO SLEEP.” SO THEY WOULD GET THE IMPRESSION THAT HE WAS TALKING
ABOUT SUICIDE. EVERYBODY WAS TRYING TO, LIKE,
RATIONALIZE WITH HIM. IT WAS ONLY AFTERWARDS
THAT I FOUND OUT ALL THESE PEOPLE
HE HAD TALKED TO. ♪♪ EVERYBODY’S LIKE,
“OH, YOU’RE SO AMAZING, GRACE.” AND I’M LIKE,
“REALLY, I’M NOT THAT AMAZING.” I FELT LIKE A HYPOCRITE. I HIRED SOME AFTER-SCHOOL GIRLS
TO PLAY WITH HIM AFTER SCHOOL AND HELP HIM WITH HIS HOMEWORK,
BECAUSE MY BRAIN WAS FRIED. I JUST… IT WAS JUST SO… IT JUST HURT SO BAD. ♪♪ I COULDN’T THINK.
I COULDN’T FUNCTION BARELY. I JUST DIDN’T KNOW
THAT I COULD TAKE THE PAIN. HELPED FOR A WHILE, BUT I NEVER
FINISHED READING IT AGAIN ‘CAUSE IT JUST GOES DOWNHILL. I THINK I WAS IN A DEPRESSION
FOR SIX YEARS. SO HE SUFFERED THE CONSEQUENCE
OF THAT. BUT ROSS NEVER COMPLAINED. HE NEVER, NEVER ONCE COMPLAINED. ♪♪ THE MOST DIFFICULT PART,
IN MY OPINION, ABOUT BEING BLIND
IS THE SOCIAL ASPECT. INSTEAD OF ASKING ME QUESTIONS
ABOUT BEING BLIND, LIKE, PEOPLE WOULD JUST —
WOULD JUST IGNORE ME. IT WAS REALLY HARD
TO COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE, BECAUSE, “A,”
IF THEY DON’T TALK TO ME, THEN I DON’T KNOW
WHERE THEY ARE. IT MADE IT HARD FOR ME TO
ACTUALLY, LIKE, JUST BE A KID, BECAUSE I DIDN’T HAVE ANYONE
TO JOKE AROUND WITH. AND, OF COURSE, LIKE, IT CAUSED
ME TO BE, LIKE, SORT OF BITTER, YOU KNOW? ♪♪ THE WHOLE POINT OF THE CAMP
IS TO KIND OF HELP BLIND PEOPLE REALIZE THAT THEIR VISION
DOESN’T LIMIT THEM AS MUCH AS THEY THINK IT DOES. IT ALMOST FELT LIKE
I WAS ABLE TO SEE AGAIN. IT WAS MY THIRD YEAR. THEY WANTED ME TO SHARE MY STORY
TO THE CAMP. BECAUSE I HAD NEVER REALLY
TALKED ABOUT IT MUCH. AND SHE SAID, “ROSS… …YOUR FATHER AND YOUR BROTHER
ARE DEAD. YOUR FATHER SHOT RYAN.” BASICALLY THERE ARE THREE POINTS
IN MY LIFE — BEFORE I WENT BLIND,
AFTER I WENT BLIND, AND THEN AFTER I GAVE MY SPEECH
AT EXTREME MOBILITY. SINCE I KIND OF JUST STEPPED
INTO THE LIGHT AND SHOWED MY TRUE COLORS
WITHOUT PEOPLE WAITING FOR IT, MORE PEOPLE STARTED TO TALK
TO ME. A LOT OF PEOPLE AT THE SCHOOL
SAW THE VIDEO. AND SO THAT’S HOW THINGS
KIND OF CHANGED AFTER THAT. ♪♪ HELLO, EVERYONE.
WELCOME TO MY CHANNEL. MY NAME IS ROSS MINOR,
AND I AM BLIND. DIXIE, COME. TODAY I’M GONNA
BE TELLING YOU GUYS HOW I BRAILLE AND LABEL
AND SORT. THIS IS MY SATURDAY MORNING,
CHILLING IN THE HOT TUB BEFORE I GO TO PRACTICE
IN THE POOL. SO YOU WOULD THINK I WOULD OWN
GLOVES, BUT I ACTUALLY DON’T. Woman:
[ LAUGHS ] SHE CAUGHT IT! I WILL BE SHOWING YOU GUYS HOW BLIND PEOPLE ARE ABLE TO USE
SMARTPHONES. IF I CAN JUST DO MY BEST AND TEACH SIGHTED PEOPLE
WHAT I’VE LEARNED OR TEACH BLIND PEOPLE WHAT
I’VE LEARNED ABOUT BEING BLIND, THEN MAYBE I CAN HELP IMPROVE
SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE BECAUSE OF THAT. Man:
IN LANE 8, SWIMMING FOR THE U.S.A.
RESIDENT TEAM, ROSS MINOR. Woman:
GO, ROSS! GO, ROSS! GO, ROSS! Ross:
I’VE LEARNED OVER THE YEARS MOST OF ALL
THAT IF YOU’RE PATIENT AND YOU JUST BE YOURSELF THAT
THINGS WILL BEGIN TO LINE UP. WHEN YOU GO THROUGH SOMETHING
AS SEVERE AS I DID AND YOU’RE STILL ABLE TO PUSH
THROUGH IT AND PERSEVERE, THE BEST THING TO DO
IS BE YOURSELF, BECAUSE THAT WILL EVENTUALLY
EARN OTHER PEOPLE’S RESPECT.

100 thoughts on “Her Husband Killed One Son & Blinded The Other | Survivor Stories

  1. We take for granted the littlest things. Ross is so precious to us, because of his tragedy we learn Triumph. Because we stopped to think about the little things in life. When something happens close to home we are acknowledging… The truth be told if we lose our senses hearing, smell, eyes, ECT…. Than we become humble,.. Take a day and just do one of the sense we know and live without it. Try to do one a day. You forget about what someone drives or how to make a dinner. These are what we forget about, until it's gone. I give this man the most up respect cause not only did he go throw the horror, but he trumped it. May GOD ALWAYS BLESS YOU AND YOURS. Much love from FL.

  2. There are women that marry or live with very evil deranged so called men stupid women who stick with these type have dire consequences many evil men in this word never marry plain &simple😭

  3. Stop focusing on you you you .. mom you seen something trust and believe just like after the murder you once again looked the other way there are signs

  4. The father did this to inflict the ultimate pain upon the mother. When you REALLY want to hurt someone, you hurt what means the most to them. He knew this would be something from which she would never recover.

  5. What a beuatiful soul Ross is. Wish you and you family the best, & thanks for being inspirational!!! Lets bless and clone your positive outlook. 😉

  6. People kill the ones that are closest to them because they feel an ownership towards them. It's like if someone wants to take your toys away from you so you break them, therefore, there is nothing to lose anymore and no one will gain from your loss. Possessiveness stems from insecurity and a desire for control. With time, it worsens because the insecurity never goes away. Those living under a person like this suffer forever unless they can escape but usually it will cost them their life or the life of someone they love.

  7. Wow, what an amazing young man. I am glad he is having a great life despite the tragedy that happened, and his mum is also awesome and very strong.It must have been so hard to cope with.💜

  8. Wow this.is another sad story.. feel so sorry for this lady.. Ross hope that you live a happy life and that you and your mom have find a way to be happy and still enjoy life after this bad episode. I am wishing you all the best for you both xx god bless ya xx

  9. Remember you both must forgive your father as well as her husband because God will not forgive you if you not forgive them as it says in the Bible why should I forgive you if you do not forgive them this will bring peace and remove the sadness eventually

  10. And I felt sorry for myself when my husband divorced me and left me and my daughter and then I got stage 2 breast cancer…I’ve never recovered. I wish I had this young mans determination 😞

  11. no excuses for what he did, Ross is an amazing young man who has overcome so much and his mum is so strong hawse managed to deal with what her husband did amazes me may god bless you both I am in awe of both of you

  12. The dad thought of the worst thing he could do to hurt the mom, and that was take her children from her, but thank God he wasn't completely successful. As a legally blind person and former social worker (now writer), I can say that every visually impaired person's vision loss has a different story, but the adjustment and decision to keep moving ahead and making the most of it is something we have to do if we're going to make it.

  13. Sad. R.i.p.ryan…u and ur mom are very brave an strong ..its scarey to think anyone could do something like that and for the kids how good he was to them is even more scarey …

  14. And she herself was the cause of it all, like so many other woman! Woman you have to LOVE your husbands, divorce was and is never an option You have to keep the commandments of GOD! So man woman are guilty of so many crimes that husbands are commiting after their wifes want the divorce!

  15. I wish this lad all the best for his future, he is an inspiration to us all. I hope to that his mum can rebuild her life and be truely happy. She really deserves it.

  16. My heart broke when I saw this. Wow… And Ross, I love him. What an amazing young man and mom, she's also amazing. God bless them both.

  17. I understand that we have to endure pain to learn how to deal with it, but how do you deal with pain when it was inflicted on you from someone you loved and trusted. You are remarkable Ross and I'm so proud off you even though I don't know you personally…you have a wonderful mother and memories off you brother…keep them close not the evil ones and live your life too the full…best wishes and happiness from me too you

  18. "PPL THAT DON'T HABIT ANY SUFFERING IN THEIR LIFE, WON'T BE ABLE TO TRULY EXPERIENCE LIFE"….I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THAT!! SO SO SO TRUE!! I SEE EVERY STRUGGLE I'VE HAD AS A BLESSING!!

  19. How did he do that to his own children? I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother and son . You guys are a inspiration to me and others . What a good looking and positive guy he has become . He hasn't let his blindness stop him from living life . Gid bless you brother!

  20. Just when you think my life has really sucked, someone had it worse. I’m really sorry for your loss and that you and your mom have to go thru something that should have never happened. The situation could have happened to any of us. Sending prayers and healing🙏🙏

  21. I'm impressed. This is a strong, confident, intelligent and very handsome young man who has accomplished much and will continue to, I am sure. Well done, Ross.

  22. He wanted her to suffer but he didn't count on the boys living. Why he left her alive. But he lost, thank God!!

  23. Sad, you took a vow before God, til death do you part when you married that man. You said he wasn't violent, but you wanted out of a loveless marriage. You caused this man to go off the deep end. He probably thought you would put him through the wringer with child support, as most women do, or take his kids from him. Think about the danger your putting your kids in when you ask for a divorce.

  24. "God hate divorcing"…u seem to have had a good husband, who provided, who didn't aBused u…my question is how were u to him??? Who said marriage life is a bed of roses…oh, u dont make love to me every day…I want out??? Sad for your family.

  25. He shot you in the head because HEEEEE wasn’t right in HIS head. Unbelievable story. It’s heart wrenching. 💕

  26. It is both profoundly harrowing to be put through this and amazing at how damaging one motherfucker can be. Yes these a user's fry your fuckin brain. I only wish I could euthanize my abuser who abused my kids and I

  27. This is such a tragic bittersweet story. Depression can cause people to snap in horrific ways. Many suicidal people have murdered family members before killing themselves. Thankfully Ross found meaning in his life.
    The mom is a beautiful woman inside & out.

  28. That poor family. The overwhelming heartbreak, is tremendous! I can not imagine surviving this type trauma. Praying for people is important. God, have mercy on us all, have mercy on our souls. 🙏❤️

  29. Sociopaths ALWAYS try very hard to "appear" normal. But they are actually just ticking time bombs, set to explode at any given moment in their lives. When it comes down to it–it's all about their own selfish wants, needs and desires–and at any cost–they are determined to have things go their way. This is a very sad and traumatic story.

  30. Nothing worse than a coward and this father is a poster child for cowardice. So happy to see this amazing young man didn't inherit his father's terrible traits.

  31. Why oh why do some people .. and I say people cos it’s women as well albeit mainly men that harm their precious kids to get back at their spouses? It’s so utterly cowardly and disgusting ! Well done to this young man on living your life ! ❣️

  32. So true if you don’t suffer you won’t live life omg my prayers to you and your mom so sorry you lost your son/brother😢

  33. Oh my 😭😭😭😭 I am so sorry I'm over here crying what a trash doin that to his own son that just awful

  34. Absolutely unbelievable to see how far they’ve come through so much pain. She’s an incredible mother who did what she could with what she had and her son is just as incredible.

  35. Ross ur my hero! GOD bless u and ur awesome mom always! What you said about suffering and appreciating life can only be learned by a great people! Ur an awesome human being! Ur gonna win the gold in 2020! You will you'll see!💪🏻🍾🥂

  36. Wow!!! They are for sure two very strong people. I can’t even imagine his mom’s pain. To raise her son after such a horrific trauma and have him be such a wonderful person. That’s a testament to her love as a mother. Ross your soul just radiates love for life! You truly are one of a kind and a beautiful person inside and out! I’m so glad you have chosen to share your story and how you were able to come out of the darkest part of your life with such positivity! 💗💗

  37. From personal experience I know part of the healing process is to share your story with others . And not just helps you heal but it might make a difference in someone else's life as well .
    I will pray that they have a continued humble life above ground. God's strength be with you now and always. Hugs from the San Francisco Bay Area October 2019
    🍃🕊🍃

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