10 Tips to Look SEXY at ANY Age!!
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10 Tips to Look SEXY at ANY Age!!


– Who wants to dress sexy, do you? (exciting techno music) Hi ladies its Erin and
welcome back to my channel, today I’m sharing with
you 10 ways to dress sexy at any age, I don’t know
why when I was younger, I thought that there was
a certain age you reached. Maybe it was 40, where you
like had to cut your hair and had to modify the way you dressed and fast forward now that I’m 44. I feel more vibrant and
youthful than I ever thought I would feel, I don’t want to
dress in the land of frump. You know I want to look
modern and current and sexy and retain a little bit of
hotness while I still can and I’m sure a lot of
you feel that way too. You know you’re, just
because you’re in your 40s or your 50s or your 60s doesn’t mean you can’t look like a
total smoke show right? I’m gonna tell you a really quick story, so when I was younger and I was in my 20s. I remember very strategically dressing and styling myself in a way
that downplayed any sex appeal, to the point where I remember
doing this interview. With a guy that was
making his Broadway debut and I went to his apartment and we talked about all the
training that went into it, and it was a great interview,
really had a great time. But it was a very intimate
setting at his apartment so we really connected,
had a great interview so later that night was the Tony Awards, and I covered the Tony Awards and I saw him on the red carpet and I was like hey how are you! It’s so great to see you! And he literally didn’t recognize me. So that’s how much I used to downplay it, because I felt like in
order to be taken seriously I had to dress very conservatively
and look conservative. I also feel like during
those younger kiddo years you know when you’re really in the weeds, and you know what I’m talking
about if you have kids like those first five years. You just don’t care it’s
like you’re in survival mode and you just gotta do
what you can do to survive and so now I’m sort of out of the weeds I’m not in that early stage anymore. I’m older and now I want to look sexier, and I want to dress in a way
that makes me feel like good and sexy and like a woman and feminine and a little hot do you know what I mean? And I’m sure a lot of
you feel that way too so the question is how do you do that in a way that’s also not over the top. Not stepping over any lines, that’s subtle, that’s still sophisticated, that’s still elegant, and
I’m gonna show you 10 ways to very simply do that, I
think it’s gonna be a great helpful guide for you guys,
and yeah just let me know if you have any questions afterwards. Let’s get started. (exciting techno music) So the first way that
you can add a little sexy to your outfit or to the
way that you’re dressing is to wear something
that’s off the shoulder or one shoulder, this is
still very much on trend. There is no better body
part for a woman to show off at any age than the
chest and the shoulders. It’s just such a gorgeous
part of a woman’s body in general and then it stays
gorgeous as we get older. So definitely play up that trend, off-shoulder, one shoulder, you know bras are always an
issue with that style of shirt so what you can do is wear a tank or wear a camisole underneath
and so that way you can still wear your regular bra, or
do a really pretty bra strap like a Marie Joe bra,
they’re a little pricey but that bra strap’s so
pretty it’ll look intentional. So that’s a way you can get around that. But definitely work that trend, use it, wear it out to dinner, wear it to parties it’s super sexy and such a great look. (exciting techno music) The next tip I wanted to share with you is wearing something that
shows off a little bit of the girls, like this
is something that we have as women, that men don’t have
and that we can maximize. You know, show off a little bit. I’m not talking about you
know letting it all hang out but you know there are some beautiful plunging neck lines
now if you’re smaller busted I feel like those plunging neck lines look so elegant and chique,
if you’re bigger busted maybe you could do something like this where it’s a plunging neck
line that also has the lace up detailing so there’s a
bit more coverage there. You could do a camisole like that. You could do a v neck
that’s maybe a little bit deeper than normal or a
v neck with a camisole lace peeping out, there
are ways that you can work the chest that are
tasteful, classy but still, super super sexy and hot. (exciting techno music) Okay the third tip is definitely
one of those no brainers but it’s worth repeating
and that is wearing heels. I think if you ask any man out there, not that we’re dressing
for them but it’s a good frame of reference,
heels are where it’s at, and I do feel like when
I wear a pair of heels I feel like I can take on the world and I’m taller, and longer, and slimmer and more confident, I
notice that shift in myself when I wear heels, so heels
are just the easiest thing that you can do to kind
of turn up the volume on the sexy, and if you can’t wear heels. You know just look for a
really sexy pair of flats, and they exist, they’re hard
to find but they do exist. (exciting techno music) the next tip is to wear
leather, any kind of leather and it doesn’t have to be real leather it can be faux leather, not problem. But like leather, faux leather pants. Leather, faux leather skirts,
maybe a leather jacket just leather there’s something about it. It’s the texture, it’s the
touch it’s the way it fits and hugs your body, it
is so sexy and so edgy and so modern, so just add some leather. It doesn’t even have to be a full piece it can be like, a garment
with leather panels in it or something like that. But that definitely
will dial up that sexy. (exciting techno music) The next way that you
can dress sexy at any age is to wear a pencil skirt, pencil skirts are so figure flattering and feminine and they highlight the
hips, butt, and waist. Which is what makes us
women we have that hourglass or we can create the hourglass shape and the pencil skirt does that beautifully and it really hugs the
body and the way it nips in at the knees, it’s just such a lovely feminine option and super sexy, and I did a recent blog post
with Express where I showed a faux leather pencil skirt
with a chunky knit sweater and it still looked sexy. So you could pretty much
pair that pencil skirt with anything and it’s
still gonna look sexy. (laughing) Even a giant oversized
chunky knit sweater. But that gives you the idea and at least it demonstrates
what I’m talking about with the power of the pencil skirt. (exciting techno music) The next tip to dress sexy at any age, is to play up or maximize
your assets, whatever that is. So if you have phenomenal legs, you wear a skirt or a shorter skirt. If you have amazing shoulders you wear a halter neck line, if
you have an amazing chest maybe you do off-shoulder or one shoulder. If you have awesome
arms and you don’t love your shoulders maybe
you do sleeveless dress. If you have a teeny teeny tiny waist and that’s your asset
then wear waist belts. Wear obi belts, wear sashes, like really highlight that waist. So just thinking about
what is my favorite thing about my body and then
really playing up that part. (exciting techno music) The next tip I wanted
to share is the power of the tuck, very specifically
tucking in your shirt and what tucking in your
shirt does is it highlights the waist and you’ll start
to notice a pattern here any time we’re highlighting
the feminine shape that definitely brings
about more femininity brings about more sexiness. So when you tuck in a shirt, even if it’s a white button down, you could tuck in a
white button down shirt you highlight the waist,
throw on a pair of heels have a couple of buttons undone, a little lace cammy peeping out underneath the shirt and that is sexy! I mean you could make a
white button down look sexy it’s a very effortless
casual but sexy outfit to put together, so it’s
those little details. It’s those little things
that make the difference. The tucking in of the shirt,
the unbuttoning of a couple of buttons, wearing that little lace cammy or bralette peeping out. You know the leather
detailing, the neck lines, the cutouts, the panels,
all of those little details. Definitely make a huge impact
on how the overall look is and how sexy that look is. (exciting techno music) The next way to dress sexy at any age, is to wear a fitted dress. I love a fitted dress, I love
the fitted dress especially if it’s conservative, and what
I mean by that is if it has sleeves, and it’s longer, because it feels like you’re getting so much coverage, because you are. But then it highlights the shape. Now this is something that not everyone can probably wear especially
if you’re carrying weight through the middle
and if that’s the case, instead of a body hugging
or fitting garment. You do body skimming,
skimming over the body and maybe playing around
with design details that will camouflage whatever it is you’re trying to camouflage. But the body hugging,
fitting, skimming dress will highlight your shape, will create that feminine hourglass shape and definitely whoop, turn
up the sexy, for sure. (exciting techno music) I love this next tip
because it’s so simple it feels conservative and sophisticated but then it still oozes sexiness and that is wearing a top or
blouse or dress that is sheer. It can have a sheer panel somewhere, it could have sheer sleeves
it could be sheer all over. Any kind of sheer
garment definitely brings a sexy quality to your overall look. Here is an example of a really simple basic black crew neck sweater, but it has a sheer panel
in the shape of a triangle down the front, and that is so so sexy. So just thinking about
again, those subtle tweaks that you can make or
those subtle details that you can look for in your garments when you want to dress in
a way that’s a little bit more modern, and a little bit more sexy. (exciting techno music) The last tip, number 10 is
probably the most important of the tips, and that
is to have confidence. When you own a look and you feel it. Do you know what I mean? Like you put something
on and you’re like yeah, alright whoo yeah, ready to go! (laughs) Maybe you don’t make all
of those horrendous noises but you know what I mean. You’re feeling it, you feel great in it. That will make a huge difference,
on how the overall look is perceived, you will
look sexier, feel sexier, be sexier so just be thinking about that. If something isn’t quite
making you feel that way, start over, try again pull
something else out of the closet. So I think that confidence, posture, your hair obviously has a big part of it. You know longer hair is
great but you don’t have long hair, but that sort of effortless, tussled wave is really sexy. But thinking about the
styling of your hair, also is part of that overall look is important, you know some
of us know or have a friend that just whatever they
put on they look sexy. I’m sure guy guys know somebody like that. I sure do, but most of
us aren’t like that. I am definitely not like that. I gotta work a little
bit harder at being sexy and I’m sure that many of you
are in that same boat too. So if you use these tips
and think about these tips and certainly use them when
you’re out there shopping for new garments and
thinking about the details I talked about, they’re tiny, minor tweaks that you can make that will
definitely turn it up a notch and so I just wanted to
share that with you all. I do think it’s important that at any age, we feel sexy, and that we feel attractive and that we feel pretty,
and we feel a little hot, do you know what I mean? Like it’s silly to think that, that is behind us and
that those days are over. We’re still very vibrant
and we’re still very active and we’re still very healthy, and we’re still very fit. Let’s celebrate that, let’s dress how we feel on the inside
that’s all I’m saying. So hopefully that was helpful to you guys. Do you have a tip that
you think is awesome? Please share that in the comments below. One thing I didn’t
mention, a quick bonus tip for you guys are over the knee boots and I am doing a video
about that coming up soon. I’m gonna do a wear it three ways with the over the knee boots,
but over the knee boots are another easy way that
you can dress a bit sexier and so more on that coming up. But that is your bonus
tip ooh for the day. Okay you guys don’t forget to subscribe to my channel if you haven’t already and share your sexy secrets,
and of course thank you so much for watching, I will see
you guys next time, bye! (electronic multi-toned ringing)

100 thoughts on “10 Tips to Look SEXY at ANY Age!!

  1. Erin, I love love love your videos, you know exactly what women want need and desire I'm 57 and I relate so well to your videos. Like they say your spot on!

  2. I'm 43, but started my family late (2 year old and a 2 month old), so I'm still "in the weeds". However, I really like that these tips will still apply in 3-5 years. Saving this one for sure! Thanks, Erin!

  3. It took years to figure out two simple things. One is coming home after a night out looking amazing. As soon as I washed off my makeup and did my bedtime routine I thought I looked prettier than at the outset of my evening out! Then I discovered that upon taking my heels off and replacing with my regular mud height to lower heeled shoes to take out the garbage I felt looser physically- or less restricted and suddenly could stride when walking. I no longer walked like a constipated chimpanzee! I felt free and resumed my normal walk which has a spring in it. I found a heel that was high enough to look like heels but structured in a way I could spring. Heels with a bit of platform built in are good for this but nit easy to find but I did – eventually. My legs are longer and my back is almost immobile from osteoarthritis so I buckle while walking in normal heels. Kind of like John Wayne with haemorrhoids before ointment was invented. I know – the way I talk it’s hard to believe I ever went to Lucie Clayton in London in the days before feminism destroyed a woman’s appearance.

  4. The cut the hair comment? I’m 50 and look so much better with shorter hair. I have a stacked bob, very thick hair, no problem doing an evening look.

  5. One of the most relatable videos I've seen you do…Thanks for being an advocate, cheerleader and trendsetter for us over 40+ gals. By the way – love the earrings – are they Vince Camuto? I feel like jewelry – such as the earrings you're wearing, are another way to add sexy to your look.

  6. Confidence is key! Totally agree that it's far more about comfort level than age. Age is just a number, we can be hot & sexy at any age. I'd love to see you do a video on styling pants and jeans in a variety of colors – purple, green, etc!

  7. Got arthritis at 52, cant wear heels, cant walk very well, got swollen knees I feel about as sexy as a brussel sprout!!!!!!

  8. Just love that black dress its does expose in the right park gives that sexy but classy look just goes to show you are never too old to express and show off off what you have in any dress form Donna x

  9. Being in my 20s, I can 100% relate to your story and it's honestly so refreshing hearing it from someone other than myself, so thank you! ♥

  10. 71+ here too, the sexiest thing that I put together earlier in the year and felt really hot in was a plain black Bardot top(off the shoulder)with elbow length sleeves worn with a orange/red shot silky taffeta knee length pencil skirt with minimal jewellery, drop earrings the same colour(as skirt) and black strappy shoes and black clutch. I was going to a cocktail party and it was semi formal. It met with approval and I felt good in it. The secret is to not show too much flesh, either top half of body or legs, you choose which, not all frontage and splits at the same time😁. I say, less is more when older but still wanting to make an entrance. If wearing sandals, don't cut your legs off at the ankle with horizontal ankle straps, especially if you are small as I am 5'4". Work with your natural colouring. I used to be Auburn hair but it is now snowy😘

  11. I love how honest and open you are when filming. I am just coming out of survival mode…I truly appreciate your guidance. I am learning who I am and how to dress myself after kids. I feel like I lost any sense of fashion after having kids. Your channel has been such a breath of fresh air. Thank you

  12. I love your channel! I turned 41 this year and I find so much inspiration for the change in my look that I feel I need. Thank you!

  13. Ok – over age 60-70: bare arms/shoulders – flabby upper arms- – bad advice so hide them. Also, showing some boobela – even discreetly, doesn't look good with that awful creepy skin we women get in that area. High heels look great but, again, older womens' feet are shot so heels are horribly painful. Pencil skirts are sexy but not if you're carrying a bigger stomach. Your advice only works well for someone much younger. We older ladies can do a few things to look good like proper fitting clothing, good hygiene, cute flat shoes, appropriate but not heavy makeup, and attractive hair styles.

  14. When I was in my 20's I wanted to be taken seriously as well. I was careful to dress conservatively because at that age sex appeal shines through anyways. lol Now that I'm 47 and beyond Mommy mush brain phase of life, I take time for myself with nails, hair and girly bubble baths with pampering. Also, I found clothes that are more form fitting, trendy and classy really makes a woman shine. I have younger men check me out often and men my age do not believe I'm my age. I don't think my skin, is any more youthful than anyone else's at my age, but it's my youthful clothing and way I style my long locks. You do not have to have short hair later in life. Men notice your nails and hair more than I ever thought. Have fun ladies and shine!

  15. I am wondering… Why isn't it more popular for the bra straps to be more like this Marie Jo bras, really pretty and looking classy (not a bedroom lingerie style), so we would never have to think again about not being able to wear a bra with this or that top because it's a faux pax. Surely, for some more cut out tops it wouldn't work but could be a huge help with many, where you still want to wear a regular bra. There is many pretty bralettes so this is great, but still, sometimes they don't give the same effect as a bra. Please, do more bras with pretty/more delicate straps at affordable prices. They are not only for support but for the looks too! I hate those strapless things!

  16. Does anyone know where I can find that same kind casual white button down like you have listed, but in size XL?? I want a good quality, but not thick, as I live in Miami. Thanks!!!!

  17. Most of friend or people at work are gelous…only one out of my whole company is nice the rest are downers….

  18. I am 52 and although I look younger I still believe I am more attractive when I feel happy, so for me works very well to have a hobby along with seminars of self developement

  19. You look amazing. Your skin looks great. I got sick with my liver at about 37 and my body was ruined (not alcohol or drug related ) Im 47, my kids grown, finally free to do what I want….and now and I wish I could do all those things you talk about. Im so glad you , please put up how you keep in shape. I hope God bless you with health so you can keep posting great videos.

  20. I don't know. I'm 71 and all I have to do is wear a nice feminine dress for $30 from Amazon, a little heel, do my hair a little, wear a tiny bit of makeup around my eyes and every guy will stop when I pump gas. No kidding!
    According to my long life experience feminine is in the long run more interesting to men. Pushing sexy wears off very quickly and attracts less good men.

  21. Oh, I forgot! Stop buying perfume. If you want a man's full attention you need to smell of potroast.
    Sex happens a few times in a month and lasts only minutes but food happens three times every day!

  22. Ohh thanks for this video! I'm 45 and I'm still dressing sexy but classy. My teenage kids love it. They're my fashion consultants 😂😂.

  23. I love the positive energy that you spread within most of the videos.
    I just wonder if you have other tips on healthy diet and supplements that boost up the youth. I believe healthy looking is a sexy trend as well.
    Looking forward to your reply.
    Best regards

  24. Erin, you are so cute…….you make me laugh "maybe you don't make all those horrendous noises!". It's good not to take yourself too seriously right? 44 years old? You don't look it! I feel the same way about keeping it " tasteful, classy, elegant, but sexy"…………that really is the key. Could you spend a little time in the future on how to disguise the bigger belly issue and still look hot? I am 46 and I think becoming peri-memopausal. The belly fat is kind of creeping in on me despite the fitness, and good healthy diet. I have had 2 kids in my late 20's. Being 5.1 and having a little more fat in that belly zone can eliminate the hour glass shape we strive to create. Love your videos and your light-hearted approach to looking and feeling our best!

  25. “Let’s dress how we feel on the inside” I love that! Celebrating life everyday and every way. I am so happy to have found you here. You are such a joy and an inspiration. Thank you so much!

  26. I’m 60 can older women wear leather skirt? Can you do a video on wearing basics when you are over 50 to look awesome and not frumpy

  27. I absolutely love watching you! You're such an inspiration, and you give me hope. I'm struggling with an ugly orthotic boot I wear daily (unfortunately no, no other insert, no matter what I've tried even works because of swelling and pain), and we'll not include the times I have to be on my knee scooter. I now realize after what you've said, as have a lot of you other pretty ladies, we need to accentuate our best feature… that used to be my petite 5' 2" frame. I have gotten a little frumpy and now that I am in my 50's, I am not going down without a fight. LOL. I've been thinking about putting rhinestones all over my orthotic boots. Any comments anyone? I can wear a beautiful heel on at least one foot right? Any other suggestions? I want to dress so that no one really notices my orthotic. Your feedback is most appreciated!

  28. I watch all your videos- don’t know how I missed this one ! Glad you made the suggestion. Great topic to empower women who feel like they left their best days behind them. Love from Canada

  29. You have so many subscribers because you are not afraid to put your real self out there – besides all the other great reasons. You are one of my favorites. 💕💕💕💕

  30. Recently I learned that one can wear high wasted pants with a crop top (the idea is that the higher portion of the stomach is typically more fit than the lower) and I thought that was a great tip. Also, I have always loved a backless dress or blouse.

  31. Erin, I love the way you keep it real and relevant to real women with real bodies and celebrate the genuine feminine bodyshape. I love all your tips for looking sexy and making the most of the petite figure (which I have :). One thing I wonder about is what to do if the things that celebrate my body shape aren't in the current forefront of fashion. For example, I look great with a big belt cinching in my waist, but I'm told big belts are so dated. Do I just not care and wear it anyway? But then, what if I look dated? Help!!!

  32. Love the video and I feel sexy by already wearing most of the items you showed. I was so proud of myself by seeing the items and feel I'm in in the "in". I love feeling sexy and it keeps my husband on his toes and yes I have many over the knee boots that he brought:o).

  33. Hi, love your site. Really spot on and game changing recommendations.
    I have two questions. Can you elaborate on any filters you use when shopping online. And, do you do personal styling for clients? I would love to hire you.

  34. I only discovered your channel last week and I love it! Especially this video. I've spent the last 4 years in "survival mode" with my young toddler and sadly that's most my 30s dressing as a dag in my active wear. I definitely will start to incorporate your tips because I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I completely agree that dressing this way can be incorporated into any age group! Keep making your wonderful videos 👏🏽💝

  35. As a designer and stylist of almost 53 I totally agree with you on the shoulder thing. But a plunged neckline is for most women over 40 a no no I think. With most women I think it is not arrractive because they tend to have more hanging skin and wrinkles there, dark spots and of course less firm breast. I must say I find it a but embarrasing when I see an older woman with a plunged neck. Please leave that for the twenties. Also leather I am not a fan. I am more of the more classy more covered style with less skin which doesb’t mean it can’t be sexy But this is all my opinion. Love your channel !! ( as you may have noticed of all my comments )

  36. Absolutely agree with the emphasis on shoulders, chest, and necklines! These are completely underrated parts of a woman's body. Most people focus on cleavage and showing lots of leg instead. I would also add the back — backless dresses are gorgeous on women of all ages, especially if their backs are toned and muscular.

    Also, one thing I've noticed about these tips is the focus on SUGGESTION instead of just showing it all. Showing shoulders, plunging necklines, nipped waists, sheer garments — the thing that ties them all together is that they showcase the power of suggestion. They make you want to know what's beneath a woman's clothes instead of just seeing boobs or butt all in your face.

  37. I love this video! So true. You can be sexy without being almost naked.Sexy and Sophisticated plus Classy is Best in my opinion.

  38. 26 here and love your videos!!! I have 3 kiddos and have been married since 20 so I totally can relate to the survival mode with children! I love getting all glammed up and sexy for my husband! I have a 5 month old baby so right now I’m going through that postpartum hairloss stage and feeling so insecure! It’s growing back but I look funny with all this baby hair sticking out! 😂😂

  39. There was a time when some women dressed sexy because it was a job requirement and they got paid for their services, now it seems like many women have taken the bait to dress down so any man can enjoy her without paying for her services.

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